Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Man's Most Deadliest Predator - Part 4

This is part 4 of a series on addiction to Pornography. You can view the earlier posts here:

Part 1 - Introduction
Part 2 - My Story
Part 3 - Addiction or Perversion?

One of the biggest reasons why I think that people (especially men) struggle with pornography and sexual sin is embarrassment.

It can seem very embarrassing to talk about things like sexual sin, pornography, masturbation; let alone, to talk about those things in context of an addiction. It can seem very embarrassing to admit that you are doing one or all of these things.

Why?

I think partly because we, as a society (especially the christian sub-culture) , have decided that open discussion of sex in any aspect is something best left to private discussions between us and our Pastor or counselor.

The reality is God invented sex for great things, when done properly within the context of a healthy marriage. Anything else was something invented by people of this world.

It is ironic how many drug addicts can openly admit their addiction and we accept it as something they can't control...even if it was by choice that they began experimenting with drugs in the first place. The reality is, an addiction to pornography is no difference, except for how we view those people who admit it.

My suggestion is two parts. First, to you who is addicted to pornography...get over it! You made the choice to get into this mess, and yes it is an addiction. If you truly want help, then accept the embarrassment that comes with it. Why? I have experienced that once you move past that initial embarrassment, you begin to develop a true conviction. I have become truly convicted to rid this from my life, as well as share with others, so that they can rebuild the relationships in their own life.

Second, to the rest of the world who judge those who "come clean" with their addiction: don't make them feel embarrassed. Treat them the way you would treat any other addict, regardless of what their addiction is!

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